How you know
You've redrawn the plan more recently than you've finished any part of it.
Something to say
“Before I change the plan again, what's the smallest piece of the old one we could finish this week?”
It's easier to spot this afterwards than at the time. Give it a week before you decide it isn't yours.
Two ways in
One is a habit. The other is one person.
Neither is the better one. Pick whichever matches the thing that is actually bothering you.
On your own
The habit, not the incident.
A better plan is cheap. A finished piece is the only thing that tells you whether either plan was right.
- Finish one piece of the current plan before you let yourself redraw it. One, any size.
- Write the new plan down and date it instead of acting on it. If it's still better in a week, it was better.
- Ask what the new version actually removes. If the answer is nothing, it's a plan about the plan.
With somebody in mind
The same friction, one person.
Somebody holding you to the old plan isn't missing the better one. They're telling you that nothing has finished yet.
- Ask what they need to see finished, and treat that as the next thing.
- Keep the two conversations apart, out loud: what gets finished this week, and what changes after that.
One of these, not all of them. And in your own words, because ours won't sound like you.
Where this sharpens
It lands hardest with two of the five.
Not because anybody is difficult. These are just the two who reach for something different first, at the same moment.
Which one is yours
You are reading The Dreamer. Is that actually you?
Ten situations, about three minutes, no sign-up. It tells you which of the five you reach for first — and which version of this page is yours.
Five readings
This plays differently depending on what you reach for first.
Pick the one that sounds most like you. Reading a dimension is not a claim that you are one.