How you know
You have the bigger role and your evenings have got longer.
Something to say
“I'm still doing my old job as well as this one. Which parts should stop being mine?”
It's easier to spot this afterwards than at the time. Give it a week before you decide it isn't yours.
Two ways in
One is a habit. The other is one person.
Neither is the better one. Pick whichever matches the thing that is actually bothering you.
On your own
The habit, not the incident.
Holding onto the work isn't a failure of trust. It's the thing you already know you're good at, and the new job is asking you to be good at something you've never had any evidence about.
- Hand over one whole thing, not pieces of several. A whole thing can be owned. Pieces just need watching.
- Let the first handover be done worse than you'd do it, on purpose, and say nothing. That's the price, and it's cheaper than the other option.
- Write down what's still yours. If the list is everything from before plus a new job, say that out loud to somebody.
With somebody in mind
The same friction, one person.
The person you'd hand it to has noticed you haven't. From where they're standing, you were trusted with a title and they weren't trusted with the work.
- Hand one whole thing to one person, and say it's theirs now rather than borrowed.
- Tell them the first go will probably come out worse than yours, and that it's fine. Unsaid, they'll read it as failing and ask you to take it back.
One of these, not all of them. And in your own words, because ours won't sound like you.
Where this sharpens
It lands hardest with two of the five.
Not because anybody is difficult. These are just the two who reach for something different first, at the same moment.
Which one is yours
You are reading The Doer. Is that actually you?
Ten situations, about three minutes, no sign-up. It tells you which of the five you reach for first — and which version of this page is yours.
Five readings
This plays differently depending on what you reach for first.
Pick the one that sounds most like you. Reading a dimension is not a claim that you are one.